Look at what quitting porn did for me. You'll wonder why more guys aren't giving it up

How much does porn cost? Many of the guys reading this are thinking Uh, I only look at the free stuff. And the rest are thinking Great, he's going to give me a guilt trip by telling me how much it's costing my soul. 

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Nope. There are spiritual ramifications, but that's not what I'm talking about. There's a cost of looking at porn that the vast majority of guys don't ever calculate. It's not monetary, it's not spiritual, or even relational. In order to explain it, let me ask you another question.

How much time do you think guys spend looking at porn?

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Why I Am So Honest About My Porn Addiction | I wrote this one while on Percocet

Earlier this week, I had 67 tumors cut out of my body. You can click here to learn about the surgery and my recovery, if you'd like. Now I'm at home recovering with heavy doses of Percocet and Doctor Who. And as long as I'm high as a kite, I figured I'd write about one of my favorite topics - Porn Addiction.

Sometimes people ask me (in my imagination) why I talk so openly about my addiction to and recovery from porn. And it's a fair question. I had the same question when I was a kid. One of my youth counselors at church stood up in front of our class and confessed he had struggled with porn. My friends and I were just grossed out. We thought why is he telling us all of this?

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It's the world's most absurd weight loss surgery, and I'm getting it!

You know that feeling you get when you find a lump? Then you immediately think it's cancer. I'm gonna die. That's what happened to me about 10 years ago. My friend, who is a massage therapist, found a lump on my lower back and was concerned.

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My Infinite Mirror Lifehack

Do you remember the first time you stood in between two adjacent mirrors?

When I was a kid, the bathroom in my house had a medicine cabinet hanging by the mirror. That old medicine cabinet also had a mirror on it's door. At night before bed, I would climb up on the bathroom counter and open the medicine cabinet door as wide as I could, until there was barely any space between the bathroom mirror and the mirrored cabinet door.

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Then I'd stick my face between the mirrors and look back and forth at the infinite reflections of myself that streamed of in both directions. I loved to imagine that they went on forever. I'd imagine I could see into the past and the future all at the same time.

How cool would it be if you could do that? See your past and your future all at the same time, that is. You'd be able to learn from the accidents of your past, and avoid the pot holes of your future. Your decisions would be well informed, and you'd have easy access to wisdom beyond your years. Obviously, it wouldn't make you perfect. Only Jesus can do that. But it'd be just about the most effective way for you to discover more potential in your life and leadership.

The good news is, there is a way to do that. And it's really easy. This is where you're thinking Okay, here comes the sales pitch. {Deep Sigh} Time to go back to checking my email. But the truth is, you don't need to buy anything. You likely have everything you need already.

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My Dirty Little Secret Revealed

Last Friday, I announced that I would be revealing my dirty secret today. After last Friday's post, I spend the majority of the weekend stressing out about writing this. I had that nagging little voice of doubt in the back of my head saying What did you do? You're just going to embarrass yourself. Don't do it. Write about something else.

My inner voice of doubt may be right in this case, but that doesn't matter. Whether I embarrass myself or not, the fact remains, the best way to discover more potential in your life is to learn from the mistakes of yourself and others. So, without further adieu, here's my dirty secret.

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I'm revealing my dirty secret [Upcoming]

We all have skeletons in our closets. Some of us have big, hairy, thick boned skeletons. Other's have little, white, dainty skeletons. But we all have them.

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I have have a skeleton of my own. I've carried it with me most of my life, and it's cost me a lot. I think about it every single day. And on Monday, I am going to tell you what it is. I have three good reasons for doing this. The first one is plain and simple, God tells us to confess to one another (James 5:16).

Secondly, it's because of a quote that has been in my head for the last five years: 

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